I have heard friends saying ''I'm a simple person''. Really? What do you mean by 'simple'? Your lifestyle, your thought process or your inability to communicate? Or perhaps fear of confrontation and not knowing how to diffuse an intense situation? More often than not, humor is used to mask a fragile ego, a faint heart or simply brushing off an uncomfortable emotional issue. And commonly to boost up a low confidence level.
Everybody has issues.
'Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is its twin' I fully agree. As doubt create fears and faith gives us hope. And when there is hope, there will be dreams and it makes one feel alive. Otherwise, it's just emptiness. Everything is justifiable as it can be rationalised depending on which side of the fencing we are sitting on at the moment. It's a natural reflex as to how the mind works for us to move within the boundaries based on our current limitations. As each person is unique with its own 'bar code', each reacts in its own way to what we perceive as good and right for us. What is good? What is right?
A boundary can be stretched and it gets wider as we grow. The right amount of doubt and faith keeps us grounded. We question ourselves every single day in things that we do. Sometimes it gets deeper but sometimes its as simple as 'What do I wear today?'. Sometimes that's a tough question to answer in the morning and wish that we can simplify that by just wearing jeans and t-shirt to work everyday. ''Will my boss accept that?. Won't I look plain and boring?. Will I be taken seriously by my clients when it's not usual in the community?'' Questions .. questions!
''I don't care, I don't have to suck eggs, I do whatever that makes me happy so long as it is not detrimental to anyone else. My boss will accept that. I look sexy in jeans and tee. I have a lot to offer and my clients know that. So what I wear is not an issue at all''.
That to me is blind faith.
Thursday, June 12, 2008
Wimmin ...
We live in an adaptive and flexible world, where change is the only constant and I believe that it's all about continuity not consistency. How one behaves, it's attitude to time and place, to history and change as we need to understand this multi dimensional character that has become second nature to confidently express ourselves in number of ways.
I would definitely like to go there. It used to be when men only hunt for food and women made beds and babies. In today's world, we're now able to wear many different hats. Even making babies singly as modern science has enabled us to do that. Does that make us less womanly? It appears so that men and women like to be treated as equals, but in reality I think not.
I still like to think that equality doesn't exist between men and women. Underneath those 'soft' exterior of men, they still like to feel being the saviour, and underneath those 'tough' exterior of women, we still like to feel protected by men. The design is such. All living things are created in pairs, complementing each other in areas where one lacks. By nature, when a pair unites it becomes whole and in that aspect it creates equality ... 2+2=4. Can I also apply the law of physics here? We instantly attract similarities in the other that we feel at ease when we can relate to and we do attract the opposites that we lack and need. Whether we realise it or not, it probably emerges at a point of encounter depending on the state of mind we are at and it may last or not, but it exist. The strength of attraction is based solely on circumstantial factor and on the level of need/s we stand on at the moment.
I love men. I love discovering each day as to what makes them tick. I love the 'simplicity' of their mind. I love the child in them. And mostly, I love the fact that they are made for us .. wimmin!
I would definitely like to go there. It used to be when men only hunt for food and women made beds and babies. In today's world, we're now able to wear many different hats. Even making babies singly as modern science has enabled us to do that. Does that make us less womanly? It appears so that men and women like to be treated as equals, but in reality I think not.
I still like to think that equality doesn't exist between men and women. Underneath those 'soft' exterior of men, they still like to feel being the saviour, and underneath those 'tough' exterior of women, we still like to feel protected by men. The design is such. All living things are created in pairs, complementing each other in areas where one lacks. By nature, when a pair unites it becomes whole and in that aspect it creates equality ... 2+2=4. Can I also apply the law of physics here? We instantly attract similarities in the other that we feel at ease when we can relate to and we do attract the opposites that we lack and need. Whether we realise it or not, it probably emerges at a point of encounter depending on the state of mind we are at and it may last or not, but it exist. The strength of attraction is based solely on circumstantial factor and on the level of need/s we stand on at the moment.
I love men. I love discovering each day as to what makes them tick. I love the 'simplicity' of their mind. I love the child in them. And mostly, I love the fact that they are made for us .. wimmin!
Freedom ...
Does it really exist? Many a times I have asked myself if I want freedom in everything that I do. Freedom of speech, freedom of thoughts, freedom of actions, just to name a few. More often than not, it comes with a price and without reaslising something has to give. In order to gain freedom, I will need power of control ... some say. The more control I have, does that mean that it gives me more freedom? I think not. More control I have, the more I am afraid of losing it, the less chances I take, narrower is my scope of thoughts, less choices it seemed. So where is the freedom?
I think the true meanig of freedom is to relinquish all control and not being afraid of losing it. Putting the best affordable effort in manifesting how I want my day to turn out as I like it too. It's not about the outcome that matters, but being able to say at the end of the day that I have done my best and if you think my best is not good enough, that is your problem ... not mine!
I think the true meanig of freedom is to relinquish all control and not being afraid of losing it. Putting the best affordable effort in manifesting how I want my day to turn out as I like it too. It's not about the outcome that matters, but being able to say at the end of the day that I have done my best and if you think my best is not good enough, that is your problem ... not mine!
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